My pumpkin bread recipe has fingerprints and batter splatters on it from years and years of use. I nearly have it memorized. But I have learned I can’t actively listen to someone and bake the sweat treat at the same time.

My guests often request pumpkin bread for breakfast, so during my brother-in-law’s most recent visit, I began measuring the flour and spices.  He chatted away, sitting on a bar stool in the kitchen. I contributed to the conversation and gave him as much eye contact as I could manage while stirring.

When I pulled the baked bread out of the oven, it resembled a deflated football. I scanned the recipe and realized I had forgotten the eggs. Ugh! I have since learned that my tired brain does better when I give people my undivided attention. I know this isn’t always possible because we have to cram so much into each day. Mom’s in particular have to become expert multi-taskers. But make every effort to truly focus on the speaker. It strengthens relationships because we are showing friends and family that we value what they are saying. (And because we don’t have to serve them pathetic-looking pumpkin bread.)

Here are 7 Ways to give your undivided attention:

1. Put the devices away. Turn your phone face-down or in your pocket so you aren’t tempted to look at it. Close your laptop or turn away from your computer.
2. Don’t multi-task. The long “to do” list can usually wait.
3. Face the person who is speaking. It makes them feel important and helps you stay focused.
4. Control your hands. Avoid doodling, playing with your hair, or fidgeting.
5. Listen before speaking. Absorb what is being said instead of thinking about what you will say.
6. Avoid interruptions. Silence your phone—including email and text alerts.
7. Control your mind. Keep it from drifting to future plans or past events.